Why women have extramarital affairs?
Chat about a loaded theme that no one wants to talk about, that’s it. Funny thing, affairs have been going on ever since old ages. Extramarital relationships can be fraught with troubles, cause sadness, and other problems. In addition you must wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and frankness issue, funds, age dissimilarity, faith background, guilt, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this article I will identify an affair as a long term, maybe decades long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, date married man.
Why do people have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are men seeking an affair. I suppose mostly though it is just the human nature, the need for love, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and cherished. Here are a few reasons I have run across.
Physically we as human beings are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is enjoyable and fun, and sex makes us get away the world for a brief period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Someone can turn the craving on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the exhilaration of the chase. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another human being, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos culture has erected against married dating. For many individuals the yearnings will defeat their doubts and make them risk the anger of not only their family, but society as well. So why, what is the mechanism?
Sex Addicts, perhaps some of us are. Sex is horribly pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically motivated sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not harm your spouse or anybody else? You will need to reduce the risk you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the biggest grouping, gigantic in fact. There are many couples whose marriage is over, but they feel comfortable in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Then there are the kids to think about. Your finances are so entwined. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay together besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that stop them implementing the sex operation, at least not with their othere half. An extra-marital affair occasionally solves the problem while keeping the marriage undamaged.
Neglect, sadly this is a common groung I fear. One or the other, generally the man is sexually neglecting his wife for a tones of reasons. As a man I truly appreciate you guys neglecting your girls and making them obtainable to us males of romance, making them “hot milfs” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but evil.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, could be it is a shortage of love, maybe caring is not here, could be it is the closeness, maybe neglect. Maybe we have simply developed distantly, our common interests diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is opposed to of what you want. Could be I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The ultimate reason people give is, they look for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to escape, for economic gain, for retribution and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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